Wanting what you really don't want

Sometimes I get to talk to people who say that they want or need something. When I hear what they’re hoping or asking for I often cringe, because I know that  what they say they want isn’t what they really want, it’s just what they think they want.

Those situations can get uncomfortable. It makes me really enjoy the time I get to spend with people who have given honest and humble thought to what they need or want. (I think the humility part is key)

My question is this, should you just be patient with those people who think they want what they really don’t want, hoping time will eventually sort it out for them? Or do you give them advice and try to change the state of their heart?

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